Now Is The Time

The most important things in life aren't things. And even when there is not a tornado is in the forecast, I want to remember this.

This post is dedicated to each and every person who suffered tremendous loss and devastation due to the deadly tornados that ripped through towns across the southeast on April 27, 2011.

I have had several readers ask me, “How do you let go of the insignificant?”

I have been unable to give a definite answer.

I often have people ask, “How do put distraction in its place?”

I struggle with it every single day.

But yesterday, there was no struggle. Yesterday, the answer was crystal clear.

How do you put the meaningless, irrelevant, insignificant daily distractions into perspective? How do you finally figure out what matters and what doesn’t?

It is when you fully realize with 100% certainty that today could be your very last day on earth.

And for some precious souls, it was.

I live in a state that has been deeply affected by the rash of deadly tornados that occurred on April 27th.  My experience yesterday in regards to the storm is only a sliver of what others have painfully endured, but what I realized in my fear is a grim reality that I don’t want to ever forget. I feel it is worthy of sharing.

This is my story…

In the early morning hours of April 27th, the electricity in our house went out. As my daughters and I cuddled in one of their upstairs bedrooms, I suddenly realized what was going on outside was not a severe thunderstorm or even just strong winds. I grabbed both my daughters with unexpected urgency and said, “We must go to the basement right now.”

I didn’t have time to grab my phone or a flashlight, so we quickly felt out way down the dark stairwell, never letting go of each other’s hands. We leaned up against the concrete wall as sounds I had never heard in my life filled our ears.

Without thinking, I began to pray out loud. That is when my seven-year-old’s eyes filled with tears, and she asked, “What’s going to happen, Mama?”

At that moment, I caught a glimpse of what I have been desperately searching for on this journey to let go of distraction and grasp what really matters.

Once this storm passed, grim weather reports filled the airways, cautioning us to prepare for round two. Meteorologists calculated the storm would hit between 2 p.m. and 7 p.m. and it would be much, much worse than what came through in the morning. Words like “catastrophic” and “major loss of life” were used repeatedly.

As much as my fear gripped me, there was a little voice in my head that said:

Remember this feeling.

Isn’t this what you have been searching for?

Isn’t this the answer to every question you have ever had about letting go of distraction?

And then as if my eyes were opened fully, the minutia was pushed away; the insignificant faded into the background; the trivial completely disappeared.

And what was left standing were not things.

Standing out like a shining star was my family…and spending the precious God-given moments of my life with those I love.

As my daughters and I awaited the impending storm and prayed for their Daddy’s safe return, every single moment became a celebration to me….

Watching my youngest daughter dress herself from start to finish,

Without rush, without haste,

Listening to my oldest daughter read aloud,

With no correcting, just listening and absorbing,

Watering their potted flowers on the patio together,

With no warnings of too much water or dirt on the floor,

Watching them delight in a rare treat of “Cheetos,”

With no cautions of “too many” or “shirts are not napkins,”

Tenderly applying sunscreen and gently brushing their hair,

Without the angst of a hurried pace,

Making up a silly song so I could ingrain their melodic laughter to memory,

Savoring, just savoring

Each and every moment and each and every breath.

By the grace of God, my Hands Free inner voice spoke as clearly as it ever has before:

Now is the time.

Now is the time to look into their eyes until they succumb to sleep.

Now is the time to say, “I love you,” so many times you lose your voice.

Now is the time to hold them until your arms grow tired.

Now is the time to laugh until your belly hurts.

Now is the time to whisper prayers of gratitude until you account for every blessing.

Now it the time to perceive ordinary moments as gifts.

Now is the time to live in THIS moment.

Now is the time.

Now is the time.

Because you just don’t know what is about to come your way.

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Tell someone “I love you.” Give hugs freely and let them last. Look into the eyes of those you love and memorize the color. Say yes…yes….yes. There are not too many things that have 100% certainty in this lifetime. But one thing is for certain: one day will be your last day on this earth. Now is the time, my friends. Now is the time.

ABC News lists ways you can help tornado survivors:

*You can call 1-800-RED-CROSS or text “REDCROSS” to 90999 to make a $10 donation.

*You can call 1-800-SAL-ARMY and donors can text “GIVE” to 80888 to make a $10 donation. Checks can be made out to the Salvation Army Disaster Relief, P.O. Box 100339, Atlanta, Ga., 30384-0339.

Alabama’s governor also has a relief fund donation page here.

Alabama GOP Sen. Jeff Sessions will be touring affected areas today and also has a relief page here.

Help by sending your thoughts, prayers, and aid to those in need.

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13 Responses to Now Is The Time

  1. Christi says:

    Beautifully written and now I’m teary-eyed! Thanks for writing this. I’m wishing the best for you, your loved ones, your town, your state. Now, I think I’ll go forward this on Twitter & Facebook.

  2. Barb Black says:

    Beautiful post. Just beautiful. And so in line with how I try to view my time and live my life.

  3. Joan says:

    Thank you for writing this, so well put. How you were able to manage writing so beautiful and poignant after going through all that just amazes me. I have experienced a tornado ripping through my town also, although not to the extent that you did. I remember well the noise and destruction of it and the fear I felt. As I read your story, those memories came rushing back. My prayers are with you and all those affected by these storms. Your recovery is going to be a long process and I pray that no one forgets and continues to send help.

    • Thank you, Joan. My writing is my therapy, and I could not sleep until I wrote this message that was placed on my heart by someone far greater than me. I am sorry to hear you have been through a similar experience. You wish this on no one. Thank you for the prayers for those who have been devastated in ways that are beyond our comprehension. I really appreciate you taking time to read this and to respond.

  4. Chris says:

    Rachel, being present and concerned with only what’s truly important is something I’ve made progress on, but still struggle with on a daily basis.

    This is such a great post! If I weren’t at work I’d be balling my eyes out right now. Yep, I’ll admit it; I’m a man and I cry. Real dads usually do. I’m sharing this and subscribing right now.

    • Chris, thank you! I can tell by your message that your children are very lucky to have a dad like you! I am so honored to have Dads, Moms, Grandparents, and even single folks joining me on this journey to grasp what truly matters in life. Comments like your are my inspiration!

  5. Dawn says:

    Rachel,
    I have been so worried about you, Scott and your girls since hearing about the terrible devastation in Alabama. I am so relieved to hear that y’all are okay.
    Your post about the storm is beautiful. What a blessing you received in this storm — affirmation that now is the time! What a beautiful lesson to remind us all that there is no better time like the present to live in the moment.

    • Thank you for your love, support, and concern. I am so blessed to share the messages that have come from the storm. So many great lessons have come from the destruction and from the hearts of its survivors. Thank you for reading and allowing them to move you, Dawn.

  6. I will never forget that sound either….and how silent it was just minutes prior to that horrific wind…5:50 am our power went off. The cross flew off of my house as I looked out my window at what appeared to be similar to hurricane winds…I had no idea what awaited me as everyone was trapped on all sides of Liberty Park unable to leave for …a while. So glad to hear you are safe…praying for the victims and their families all over our blessed state of Alabama. Thank you for your continued powerful words …Hugs

  7. I had some tears well up while I read this. Then I dashed off the computer for some hug and kisses for my girls. They are what matters.

  8. Dawn says:

    I’ve just discovered your site and read this after one of the worst parenting weeks of my life. I just feel drained and angry and like it’s not worth all the pain, energy and sadness and frustration sometimes. But reading this has given me renewed hope, and the energy to get up again tomorrow to try again. Maybe harder this time.

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