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    Leah says

    Thank you so much for sharing. I grew up in a house hold where my mother yelled non stop and I swore I would never be that way. Unfortunately I have noticed my self falling into that same pastern. I have too much on my plate and spend all of my free time on the internet. I really needed to hear this before my daughter got to the point where she feared me like I feared my mother. Thank you again!

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    I grew up in a house full of yelling and scolding (and shaming), where everything my brothers and I did was a distraction to what my parents thought we all should be doing. It had a permanent effect on us (we are all now in our 30s and carry the burden), and really all I can do about it is work hard to not yell at my son. That’s all each of us can do. It’s more important than you know.

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    Malory says

    I was, and still sometimes am, that balloon that pops. Unfortunately, it is my kids that feel the wrath. I have been working on my problem for at least five years. I am much better. But, I wish I was that Rhino mom who didn’t yell for 365 days. You are very brave to write this article. Thanks for letting me know I am not the only one who struggles with this.

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    Robb Sundin says

    In this day and age, this is for dad’s also. The daughters mom worked 3-11, so our routine was that I supervised after school play, fixed supper, supervised homework and always did the bedtime ritual. After a full day of work, going home to this routine, often was difficult and exhausting. Sometimes I did yell, but fortunately, not often.

    The rewards came slowly but surely after a messy divorce. When the eldest got married, it was her dad that got asked to help her get ready to meet her man, not her mother. The photographers had a field day. I was also present for the birth of my first two grandchildren. When the youngest found out she was pregnant, she asked if I’d come spend the first with her and spend the first week with them and the newborn. If you haven’t figured it out by now, my X was the screamer and in many ways, I am the parent you have become. It is never easy, but then the most rewarding things always take the most work.

    Thank you for writing this piece. As I end two weeks of spending time with my six and four year old grandsons at Disney World, your thoughts reinforce that while none of us ever do things perfectly, the rewards are great for those who try.

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    kay smart says

    Thank you so much for sharing. I have two children one with Cerebral Palsy but my children are now 17 and 20, my 20 year old has had some serious issues in his life. Reading this made me cry and more importantly think and reflect. I am also a full time Family Day Care Educator with 5 small children in my care each day – today I choose to be peaceful and calm even though I don’t think I shout I do the eye roll and body language I’m positive. But you’ve made me think – today and every day from now on I will remember. Thanks, Kay


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