{"id":9634,"date":"2023-03-26T17:57:11","date_gmt":"2023-03-26T23:57:11","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.handsfreemama.com\/?p=9634"},"modified":"2023-03-26T17:59:30","modified_gmt":"2023-03-26T23:59:30","slug":"write-your-need-note-you-are-worthy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.handsfreemama.com\/2023\/03\/26\/write-your-need-note-you-are-worthy\/","title":{"rendered":"Write Your \u2018Need\u2019 Note. You Are Worthy"},"content":{"rendered":"\n
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For most of my life, I\u2019ve struggled to ask for what I need.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Actually, I didn\u2019t even know what I needed because: 1) I spent the majority time thinking about what other people needed, and 2) the thought of listening to my feelings felt scary.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But here\u2019s what happens when you constantly give and give and dismiss your needs\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anger and resentment become frequent visitors, often overstaying their welcome so there is no room for joy.<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

I can\u2019t count the number of times I quietly simmered, thinking, \u2018Why didn\u2019t anyone know how much I needed them to show up for me<\/em>?\u2019<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Well, that sure didn\u2019t get me anywhere\u2026 just farther from joy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I realized spending time with anger and resentment wasn\u2019t how I wanted to spend my life, I began paying attention to when they showed up. I realized those feelings were trying to tell me something important.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Motivated to understand these emotions better led to the Practice of Presence <\/strong>(self-listening) which led to the Practice of True Worth <\/strong>(self-love). That\u2019s when a noticeable difference took place inside me and around me. Less anger and resentment, more compassion and connection. <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Learning to sit with uncomfortable feelings and express them in appropriate ways brought me to places I never thought I\u2019d be \u2014 like being able to write this note to my husband, Scott, a few weeks back. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sitting next to his personal copy of Soul Shift <\/a>was the note with a heart necklace taped to it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

It read:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cIf there is one thing I\u2019d most like to have to celebrate my book launch, it would be to get this necklace fixed. I bought it for myself after completing a hard endeavor two years ago and didn\u2019t take it off until it broke. I tried to replace it, but the company doesn\u2019t carry it anymore.\u201d<\/em><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

I didn\u2019t say the necklace also represents the living map that is now in the back of my new book. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nor did I say I bought matching necklaces for my beloved Soul Shift retreat<\/a> companions, Carrie and Amy. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

But those things are true and explain why it\u2019s so special.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A few days later, Scott came to me with the necklace in a little clear bag. He said the jewelry repairperson said it was \u201cgold-plated\u201d and wasn\u2019t worth his time to fix.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I held my breath, resisting old urges to dismiss my needs by saying, ‘Don\u2019t worry about it. It\u2019s too much of a hassle<\/em>.'<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Instead, I waited\u2026 and Scott said, \u201cI have another place I want to try tomorrow.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThank you,\u201d I said excitedly to him\u2026 and also to myself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you finally know you are worth the hassle, effort, and inconvenience it takes to thrive as your fully human self, that is cause for celebration.<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

????Jan 7, 2014<\/p>\n\n\n\n

????Sept 8, 2015<\/p>\n\n\n\n

????March 7, 2017<\/p>\n\n\n\n

????April 28, 2020<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Those dates are my book birthdays.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They are among the most important dates of my life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I regret that I spent most of them with anger and resentment because I never told anyone how important those days were \u2013 not even myself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But I am human\u2026 and I am learning how to love myself better\u2026 and that is helping my people love me better too.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

????March 28, 2023<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Soul Shift\u2019s<\/a> book birthday is coming\u2026 <\/p>\n\n\n\n

And to celebrate, there just may be a gold-plated heart necklace suspended from my neck\u2014the kind you can\u2019t put a price on.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Friends, cultivating the Practice of Presence and True Self-Worth are the beginning chapters of SOUL SHIFT: The Weary Human\u2019s Guide to Getting Unstuck and Reclaiming Your Path to Joy<\/a>. There is only ONE DAY LEFT to pre-order the book and claim your free \u201cSelf-Compassion Starter Kit\u201d. If you want to claim your bonus gift right now, I\u2019ve put all the retailers in one handy place<\/a> – everything from independent bookstores to large retailers to signed copies. Just click here<\/a> and scroll down until you see the green box with all the retailer logos. <\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

VIRTUAL LIVE SIGNING – Please join me on Tuesday evening, March 28, at 7pm Eastern on my Hands Free Revolution Facebook page<\/a> for the book launch party! I will be joined by two of my closest friends for a fun evening of storytelling in my basement! <\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

IN-PERSON SIGNINGS – I have in-person book signing events scheduled in Indiana (one on April 13<\/a> and one on April 15<\/a>), Georgia<\/a>, and Alabama<\/a> for #SoulShift. Be sure to check out the schedule in the image below.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lastly, registration is now open for my Soul Shift Retreat of 2023<\/a> scheduled for October 27-29 at the Art of Living Retreat Center<\/a> in the majestic mountains of North Carolina.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thank you for your love and support<\/em><\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n

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