Live Undistracted, Heart Led, and Hands Free....Every Day

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ABOUT THE BOOK

Rachel Macy Stafford, known as the Hands Free Mama, equips readers to breathe life into what really matters: the ordinary moments in our routine lives and the people in them.

Stafford’s inspiring words fill this beautiful book of short pieces constructed around the seasons of life. This flexible, non-dated, moment-to-moment resource of encouragement can be picked up whenever you need to find meaning in the meaningless…when your soul is weary…when your heart is heavy…when your connections are weak. Only Love Today’s life-giving words remind you of the tools you already possess and the insights you already have to guide you back to what matters most. Regardless of what you’re experiencing or what season you’re in, you’ll find wisdom and encouragement to move each day in a positive direction.

  • Only Love Today—is clarity when you’re conflicted.
  • Only Love Today—is unity when you’re divided.
  • Only Love Today—is faith when you’re uncertain.
  • Only Love Today—is a reset button directing you back to what matters most.

With Only Love Today, you’ll feel more aligned with your heart so love can fuel you forward.

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Free Bonus Materials

When you pre-order a copy of Only Love Today by March 7th you'll also receive the following:

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OLT Coloring Pages

4 Only Love Today coloring pages to download to your computer, print out and color.

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OLT Printables

4 Only Love Today reminders to breathe posters to download to your computer, print out and post.

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OLT Phone Lock Screen

A digital lock screen to download to your phone and use as a wallpaper.

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OLT Bookmarks

4 Only Love Today seasonal bookmarks to download to your computer, print out and use

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ORDER ONLY LOVE TODAY BEFORE MARCH 7, 2017

When you order Only Love Today before March 7, 2017, you'll receive

  • 4 Only Love Today Coloring Pages
  • 4 Reminders to Breathe Downloadable Prints
  • An Only Love Today Lock Screen for your phone
  • 4 Only Love Today seasonal bookmarks

First, go to the retailer of your choice and order Only Love Today. Then simply email a copy of your receipt to rachelmacystafford@gmail.com. Once we receive your email, we’ll email you back a link to your bonus materials!

olt_lp_aboutRachel Macy Stafford

Rachel Macy Stafford is the New York Times bestselling author of Hands Free Mama and Hands Free Life. Rachel is a certified special education teacher who provides readers with practical and motivating methods to let go of worldly distractions so they can live authentic and fulfilling lives. Since starting the blog Hands Free Mama in 2010, Rachel’s work has been featured in USA Today, TIME.com, MSN.com, FoxNews.com, Reader’s Digest, and she has appeared on CNN, Good Morning America, The Today Show, and Global News. Rachel loves being outdoors, baking, volunteering with homeless cats, and visiting nursing home residents. She lives in the South with her husband and two daughters who inspire her daily.

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“Cecilia’s father is being admitted to the hos “Cecilia’s father is being admitted to the hospital. I am sorry to have to do this, but can we re-schedule your podcast interview?” the host messaged.

I assured him to take as much time as their family needed.

“BTW,” he responded, ”Cecilia's mother is using your book to grieve. Thank you for that. (Cecilia hasn't been able to get it out of her hands 😀)”

A few weeks later, I joined the husband & wife team for our rescheduled Zoom interview. Cecilia had promising news to share about her dad’s unexpected comeback.

“Before we start,” she said, “ I want to tell you how much your book helped my mom while we were in the hospital. Since I needed it for our interview, I decided to print out the Soul Shift affirmation poster for my mom before I left. She read them all aloud and decided she needed to make watercolor cards with each of the affirmations.”

At this point, it was difficult for me to keep my emotions in check.

The affirmation poster is part of the Soul Shift “Self-Compassion Starter Kit” pre-order bonus gift idea I pitched to my publisher in back in December.

It was the same one that caused my literary agent to interject, “Wait… isn’t this going to be a lot more work? You’ve already written a 65,000 word book!”

Sandra knows me well… sometimes annoyingly too well.

But yes, creating this kit would take time, effort, and heart… but I was trusting myself that there was a reason this self-compassion kit had come to mind and wouldn’t leave me.

To hear that it brought comfort and direction to a family in crisis confirmed a powerful truth that’s been giving me peace these past few years of great uncertainty…

I trust my heart knows the way… and beautiful things come to be
when I listen
and let love lead.

My hand in yours,
Rachel 

⏰ Only 3 days left to get your Self-Compassion Starter Kit!!!! It is free with the pre-order of #soulshift (in any format, from any country). Simply enter your receipt number on the preorder book page (link in bio).
Each time we deny what we need hide who we are dis Each time we deny what we need
hide who we are
dismiss our feelings

to appease
accommodate
gain approval
or “belong”

we keep ourselves
from new experiences
a sense of worth
inner peace
and joy

We deny ourselves because we fear rejection,
so, we reject ourselves.

Again
and again
and again
we deny ourselves
of what we need to thrive.

And then one day, we realize…

trying to meet expectations outside our control (other people’s approval or opinions),
detaches us from the core of who we are.

And we are not willing to do that anymore. 

Using one self-honoring choice at a time, 
we begin the journey of self-acceptance and true self-worth.

When we encounter someone else’s 
resistance and disappointment 
along our path
(which we will),

let’s reach for this assurance in our pocket:
 
“Consistently rejecting my inherent self creates a wound far deeper, far more painful than the external rejection I received today.
 
I won’t always make self-honoring choices, but I am trying. Healing work like this takes time – and for the first time in a long while, I know I’m worthy of taking as much time as I need.”
 
By Rachel Macy Stafford, from my new book #soulshift 

❗️4 DAYS!! Friends, just 4 days left to pre-order my new book. Pre-orders help authors & secure your copy should stock run out (which tends to happen in the first week.) All pre-orders come with the bonus gift of my “Self-Compassion Starter Kit.” 

🎁 Pre-order & claim your gifts at link in bio. 

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Making a commitment to touch base with my INNER wo Making a commitment to touch base with my INNER world before touching base with the OUTER world has impacted my life more than other daily practice.

Through it, I came to realize the world’s opinions and expectations are what MOST OFTEN mislead me from my true, authentic path and sabotage my joy.

The world with its tight, frantic, all-consuming fist DOES NOT know what is best for me, but my heart does… and your heart does too, my friends.

In this peaceful podcast episode, I talk to the delightful @jeannemariepaynel (known as ‘the fairy godmother of parenting') about the Practice of Presence from my new book, Soul Shift.

I hope you will find time to listen in the days ahead – in the meantime, here are 7 quotes from my interview that Jean-Marie said were definitely THINGS TO REMEMBER…

💡“The biggest preventer of having distractions take over our lives is to have boundaries.”

💡“If you make a commitment to check in with your inner world before you check in with the outer world, your day is going to be more meaningful.”

💡“There’s power in sitting with uncomfortable feelings and the truths that come up.”

💡“There’s no set right or wrong way to reclaim yourself and the joy within you. It’s your journey.”

💡“Perfection is not your friend.”

💡“Focus on all that you are, instead of what you’re not.”

💡“Tell perfection… you’re not needed here, I’m going to show up bravely, boldly, flawed and full of hope.” – Rachel Macy Stafford

❓Does one of those statements meet you right where you are today? I’d love to know!

🎙️To listen to my convo with Jeanne-Marie on @theartofparentingpodcast click link in bio. I appreciate you!
I was standing in my kitchen on March 1, 2019, won I was standing in my kitchen on March 1, 2019, wondering how I was going to get through a messy and uncomfortable struggle in my life when my husband sent me a song.

It was called, ‘Mess,’ by @noahkahanmusic & this is what I heard:

“I'll move back home forever, I'll feed the dogs & I'll put all my pieces back together where they belong, and I'll say, ‘I'm a mess, I'm a mess, oh God, I'm a mess.’”

“I’m a mess” was exactly how I felt, yet it never sounded so beautiful… so pleasing… so comforting.

As I listened to the song on repeat, my uncertainty was replaced with resolve: I wanted to help someone feel this kind of comfort – this unspoken acknowledgment that our messiest parts are not to be hidden, but instead, shared because they are what connect us.

It’s now March 22, 2023, and I think I’ve done it—at least that’s what I am hearing from early readers of my new book.

I nervously asked for people to join my book launch team a few weeks ago. 674 people showed up and are reading an early copy.

“Every. Single. Page. Speaks. To. Me. Directly,” one person wrote. “I feel your nurturing love popping through the pages, and I find comfort knowing that you are leading me down the path I literally need right now.”

I look at my current desk situation where I’ve been putting in long hours preparing for the release of Soul Shift.

It’s a mess… but there is love.

It’s in the candle and cards my friends sent to cheer me on.

It’s in the photo of my daughters and me playing in the ocean.

It’s in the scribbles on which I write my vulnerable thoughts, feelings, and words.

How grateful I am to know I don’t have to hide my mess anymore.

I am a human being who bares her scars… who knows healing happens in community… who knows life is not meant to be navigated alone.
 
Isn’t it when we open the doors to our messy lives and hearts that joy, laughter, and love can find their way in?
 
I think so.

“I’m a mess, too.”

Four words never sounded so beautiful.

RMS💕
In 2015, @doctorshefali, renowned educator and rev In 2015, @doctorshefali, renowned educator and revolutionary parenting expert, asked me to review her 'End Shame' video. What occurred was nothing short of an emotional breakthrough.

Two minutes into the video, Dr. Shefali spoke these words from a child’s point of view: “I came to you so you could honor my soul, nurture my worth, and preserve my spirit. Yet it is you who annihilates my very essence in the name of parenting, in the name of love, in the name of teaching.”

Although I’d made significant progress in regulating my emotions when my children made mistakes, Dr. Shefali’s video helped me realize I had more work to do—and it needed to come from within.

I decided it was time to do something I’d longed to do forever: lower the unreasonably high expectations I put on myself by coming to understand WHY I put excessive pressure on myself (and on the people I love). 

Dr. Shefali’s revolutionary work helped me recognize a deep desire to be someone my children turned to in times of trouble. Her work was a catalyst to acknowledge my own insecurities and fears… and begin to heal them.

Learning to accept my humanness opened the door for my children to be human with me. Being regarded as a relatable and trusted guide during their teenage years opened a door for many difficult conversations that I am grateful they didn’t have to navigate alone.
 
Today I pinch myself when I see Dr. Shefali’s endorsement on the cover of my new book, #soulshift, a journey that proves we need not know it all or control it all—we receive far more of what we all need when we partner, listen, learn, and grow.🌱💫❤️
This was a first — where I forgot we were reco This was a first — 

where I forgot we were recording a podcast.

We were just two parents supporting each other as we figure out to help our kids navigate their way safely and securely into purposeful lives.

Friends, honoring our children’s authentic self isn’t easy – and not everyone is going to understand our choices and decisions. But supporting our kids as they develop their internal compass means equipping them to build a meaningful life – one they don’t feel compelled to escape from or merely endure.

I hope you will find time to listen to this vulnerable and insightful conversation. I took the liberty of transcribing a section of our conversation someone might need to hear today:

RMS: I want to commend you for asking your daughter, ‘What do you need to thrive?’

You can hear me getting emotional because I know that a lot of our kids are struggling right now. The past couple years have been really hard.

One of the most empowering gifts we can give kids is the permission and space to show up exactly as they are, even if they don’t think ‘who they are’ is what the world wants to see.

So, when you ask your daughter what’s not working in her current situation, you are validating her feelings and encouraging her to keep listening to herself. In order to live authentically, we must be able to get in touch with our needs and advocate for them.

Although she is having a really hard time right now, she knows that with you, she can share her deepest, truest feelings. You are creating this space where your daughter knows, ‘I'm safe to be myself here.’

The significance of that cannot be underestimated. A lot of kids don't have a place like that.

Jen: Inner child work is becoming a big thing, and this is about being a little more in touch with how I would have wanted to be parented as a child. Thanks for that validation.

🎙️Click link in bio to listen to the Vibrant Happy Women Podcast episode with Jen Riday and RMS

📗Pre-order Soul Shift link in bio
At 9pm last night, I realized I forgot to pick up At 9pm last night, I realized I forgot to pick up a prescription for my daughter that was ready at the pharmacy.

Certainly not the end of the world, but when I was alone, I cried—

because she needed it

because I was frustrated with myself

And because the day before, I forgot something else I usually don’t forget, and now I can’t even remember what it was.

This is what stress does; it causes things to slip your mind.

Why? Because your brain is occupied by the more important task of surviving, not to mention supporting the people who are counting on you. 

When my daughter got home from swim team practice at 9:10pm, I met her at the door.

“I’m sorry I forgot,” I said.

Her face softened, “Don’t worry, Mom… I have an extra, just in case.”

And just when you think you can’t carry the weight of the world for one more second, someone comes and stands beside you, giving your tired arms a break. 

And when you see how proud she is to show you that she is prepared, you decide that maybe stumbling isn’t the worst thing after all.

I think one of the best song lyrics ever written is this: “Even the best fall down sometimes.” (Howie Day)

And I would also add:

Even the one who holds up the world needs a reprieve.

Even the one who doles out the love needs replenished.

Even the one who handles everything effortlessly must be handled with care.

Yes, even the best fall down sometimes.

My friends, let’s not berate ourselves for what we failed to do today. Instead, let’s allow ourselves to fall into the arms of grace.

If we don’t, how will we ever know who’s ready and waiting for the chance to catch us?

-Rachel Macy Stafford

I wrote those words three years ago, but today I dug them out because I needed them. I’ve been forgetting things lately, leaving loose ends that I normal tie up. I know it’s because I am in a very full season right now. I am determined not to make it heavier by carrying the extra weight of guilt. Setting it down tonight. There is room here for you to set yours down too. My hand in yours.

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March 19 is a Hard Date for me. I felt sadness in March 19 is a Hard Date for me.

I felt sadness in my body yesterday, but I didn’t make the day harder by judging my feelings or pressuring myself to ‘pull it together’.

Instead, I reminded myself of this loving truth:

“I am allowed to honor my grief and sadness when necessary.”

My friends, no matter how you’ve navigated life up to this point, today you can choose a new, loving response to pain and discomfort. It has been my joy to hear how my Self-Compassion Starter Kit is helping people learn what it looks and sounds like to act in loving ways towards yourself.

The kit is free when you pre-order my new book, #soulshift Offer ends in 1 week. Link to preorder and claim your gift in bio.

🗣️What people are saying about it:

“Rachel, I am listening to your compassion soundtrack intro right now, and it exactly describes how I feel about myself. I am frequently battling my inner critic telling me I am not enough and am aware that I often self- sabotage due to feeling unworthy. I am so glad I stumbled upon your page last summer. Keep on doing your wonderful work. It makes a difference to my life and I am sure many others too.”
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