life’s purpose

Courage, Please Step Forward: The Advantage of Being a Human Who Does Hard Things

“My friends on the cross-country team had to get up at 5am to go to their meet,” my 16-year-old daughter…
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The Song of Empty Rooms for Braving December’s Blues

Don’t hold on to a song. That’s been my motto since I was a ten-year-old-mixed-tape-making, boom-box-loving freckle-faced girl. I spent…
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One Window Is All You Need: Heart Wisdom from a Teenage Wanderer

Guest Post by Natalie Rebecca Stafford, age 15 I was around four years old when I started asking my mom…
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How You Handle Humankind’s Most Powerful Emotion Can Build or Break Life

“And then I realized that to be more alive I had to be less afraid, so I did it. I…
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When the World Feels Awful: Wisdom from the Gap Dressing Room

“I can feel you with me in the darkness Reaching out a hand to pull me through Sadness used to…
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What’s Wonderful About a Phone-Conquering, Heart-Led Teen? Find Out For Yourself

I’d pretty much assumed our hand-holding days were over. She’s 15, after all. But during an African Road Learning Trip…
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I want to make memories, not to-do lists. I want to feel the squeeze of loving arms, not the pressure of over-commitment. I want to get lost in conversation with my favorite people, not consumed in a sea of unimportant emails. I want to be overwhelmed by sunsets that give me hope, not by overloaded agendas that steal my joy. I want the noise of my life to be a mixture of laughter & gratitude, not the intrusive buzz of mobile phones & text messages. I’m letting go of distraction, perfection, & pressure to grasp what really matters. I’m living Hands Free. Will you join me? (Read More)

“After attending one of Rachel’s speaking events, I am finding myself pausing more and re-setting my reactions to my spouse and children as a result of reflecting on the situations and lessons Rachel shared. Her decision to reveal the good, the bad, and the ugly, and what she’s learned as she’s worked to transform herself, has lasting impacts on her audience. Rachel’s lessons are like ripples in the ocean as they help others like me move towards choosing love and coming as we are. Rachel works wonders by helping others work wonders.” –A Hands Free Mama in progress

@handsfreemama April 19, 2019

Facebook keeps telling me I have not written to you in a while… like I don’t know. The last blog post I wrote was J… twitter.com/i/web/status/1…
@handsfreemama March 28, 2019

I will never forget how my daughter described the hardest thing about moving to a new place. She described it as no… twitter.com/i/web/status/1…
@handsfreemama January 19, 2019

Grateful to be part of the #PhelanLucky family and to help spread awareness and support for a resilient group of ki… twitter.com/i/web/status/1…